Self-love is not spending lavishly on material goods for your consumption. It is not clever quotes and a veneer of zen. Self-love is not rejection of others because of a sense of superiority. Self-love is not a game of one-upmanship over your peers. We must be careful not to confuse confident contentment with foolish naïveté. Self-Love is not following any particular dogma. Self-love begins with the self.
Not needing the approval of others means you do not depend on others for your internal stability. You welcome and enjoy the company of others and do not seek to be a trouble maker for the sake of appearing contrarian or rebellious. You can easily remain independent while maintaining a respectable standing with others.
Your life choices must come from a place of self-understanding. They should never come from a desire to satisfy the ideals of someone else. The moment you put the ideals and approval of others over your own is the moment you put yourself in slavery.
When you have the made clear decisions, any outside criticism of your decision is irrelevant. You will not thrive if someone likes or dislikes your choices. Your life will thrive if you are honest about what is stopping you from being the best you can be and you work consistently to eliminate anything holding you back.